To facilitate management of family gatherings or specific relations from a place of good boundary management, clear intent and the gained ability to uplift the circumstance to become an agent for positive change. Many folks who grew up in a difficult family improved their situation by moving away. But when returning to family gatherings they found the old negative patterns rearing up and demolishing the progress they felt they had make. Many folks with challenges in this area feel lacking in tools and are overwhelmed by the old patterns. Usually they can predict the family gathering scenarios in exact detail. Life-changing progress in these areas can be made through a combination of discharging in sessions. What needs to happen first is a shift in context.
The context many clients initially present is one of victim and reactivity freighted with bitter memories, anger and hopelessness. Underneath these is a hidden, deep caring about the family.
As the client becomes discharged in session and the effects of all the Problem Clearing processes take hold, the state of victim will lose it grip. An opening will develop in which to discuss how to manage family gatherings or specific relations from a place of good boundary management, clear intent and the power to uplift the whole situation. The client can become an agent of positive change in a family, through following the principle of establishing boundaries while also working to build the family connection. Clearing works to this goal!